The month of December is generally viewed as a great month 
          of parties, dinners with friends, and reunions with families. But it 
          can be a highly stressful time when you’re in charge of the dinner, 
          or you have to travel, or you and your family are worlds apart in lifestyles 
          and/or beliefs. 
        I’m going to give you some tips and suggestions 
          to make this time period much less stressful and a lot more pleasurable. 
          About ten years ago, in reading spiritual articles and books, I kept 
          noticing the word “benevolent” used in stories about angels 
          and their relationship to us. As this is not a commonly used word in 
          the English language, it was quite noticeable to me. One day I read 
          a suggestion to request benevolent outcomes for events in your life. 
          I decided to try it out, and was amazed how PERFECTLY it worked for 
          everything, from small requests such as a parking spot next to a busy 
          restaurant or a seat on the subway to the really important situations 
          in my business and personal life. After having made these requests between 
          10,000 and 15,000 times over the years, I am firmly convinced that our 
          Guardian Angels are there to assist us in living more gentle lives. 
          We just have to ask. 
        So how do you request Benevolent Outcomes from your 
          Guardian Angel? If you are cooking for your friends or family, consider 
          saying, “I request a Most Benevolent Outcome that the food I prepare 
          will be perfect for my group, and that our time spent together will 
          be enjoyable. Thank you.” Always thank your Guardian Angel, and 
          the more emotion you can put into these requests the better. These requests 
          need to be said out loud or in writing. Certainly you can change the 
          wording to fit the circumstances, but remember that the requests have 
          to be benevolent for not only you, but also all those involved in the 
          request. This is your best friend you are talking to, so be assured 
          that you can speak directly to them and in these simple terms. 
        If you must travel during the holidays, there are a 
          variety of requests you can make. You can request Benevolent Outcomes:
          · That the drive to the airport or to the place you are going 
          to be safe and free of traffic;
          · That the check in at the airport be fast;
          · That your luggage will arrive safely and on time;
          · That you speed through the Security Line with no delays;
          · That your plane and any connections you make be on time;
          · That (if you are traveling alone) you sit next to someone interesting, 
          or, if you need to sleep, next to someone who will not want to talk;
          · That your friends or family are there on time and easy to find;
          · That if you are taking part in any sport during your holiday, 
          from touch football, to skiing, to scuba diving, you remain safe from 
          injury.
        You can request a Benevolent Outcome that your visit 
          with your family or acquaintances be cordial and pleasant. Just say, 
          “I ask that during the time I am at (name the location) that my 
          experience be delightful. Thank you. This may seem like you’re 
          asking a lot in some instances, but ASK FOR THE IMPOSSIBLE! 
        Under this category comes family members or people you 
          know will be at the party or reunion with which you have had a difficult 
          time. The reasons could include alcoholism, drug use, or you have had 
          a difficult relationship with them in the past. I suggest saying something 
          like, “I ask that any and all beings come to the assistance of 
          (name) so that they remain sober and pleasant during the time I’m 
          there, and that they receive assistance in overcoming their problem.” 
          This is a “Living Prayer” that you can say for other people. 
          Change the wording to fit your circumstances. Or you can say, “I 
          request a Most Benevolent Outcome for having a pleasant relationship 
          with (name) during the time I am with them.” Again, change the 
          wording to fit your particular circumstances. 
        If you are worried about you and/or your children’s 
          safety while in the presence of someone whom you know to be physically, 
          mentally, or sexually abusive, then say, “I ask that my safety 
          and that the safety of my children be guaranteed now and in the future 
          in a way that is Benevolent to us all.” This can also be said 
          if you are currently in a relationship where you are fearful for the 
          same reasons. 
        There is what I call the “Radiant Effect” 
          when you make these requests. Many of these requests will be benevolent 
          for all of those around you, such as when you request a Benevolent Outcome 
          for a pleasant time with someone who has caused everyone problems. When 
          you request Benevolent Outcomes for yourself, it also affects others—in 
          this case those who are at the dinner, party, or reunion with you. It 
          makes for a much more pleasant time for everyone! These simple requests 
          can lower your stress and make your family’s holiday much more 
          congenial and joyful!
        About the Author
          Tom T. Moore is an entertainment industry CEO and speaker, who distributes 
          motion pictures and TV programs internationally. His book, The Gentle 
          Way: A Self-Help Guide For Those Who Believe in Angels (ISBN # 1-891824-60-0, 
          Light Technology) gives many more suggestions for requesting Benevolent 
          Outcomes. Visit his website at www.TheGentleWayBook.com.